These words make me cringe. As though that’s a compliment. As though the opposite is an insult. But I ran across this recently and it struck me as being a perfect sentiment:
I’d do her.
If, like, she were still alive. And would have me.
[Obviously, this was about a historic figure.]
“And would have me.” is the pertinent point. But it changes the whole sentiment from, “I am in a position of power and deign to choose her,” to “We are equals and I would like her if she agrees.”
It’s all about consent.