Sparks: Facebook/Social Networking

One of the many reasons I don’t post with my IRL name here (I won’t say “real”, since xJane is just as real in many ways) is because I am attempting to manage my image. In our internet age, I still find it to be very important to not ruffle feathers in a public way (so that I can find a job, even with a company I may not agree with) while at the same time ruffle feathers (feather-ruffling is something most people need more of).

Accordingly, I can say that I am not embarrassed about anything on my Facebook page. (Except, perhaps, who my “friends” are, but that cannot be avoided in many cases.)

Here are some recent articles I found interesting about Facebook: the first (hat tip to @greaterumbrage) is the humorous Facebook survival guide for adults. A great way of explaining “the Facebook” to people who ask. In fact, I may just send this around to some people I know…

Linked to in that article are two more of interest (to me, at least, and enough so that I want to share):

A discussion of “Facebook drunkfail”, also a humorous take on the subject (please please please Google “Kevin Colvin”, regardless of whether or not you click on and read that link, and read the first page that comes up. I think John bought me a drink from him once at the Edison…). A serious subject, though, and the major reason I (a) post here as xJane and (b) carefully edit my FB page (and (c) have two Twitter accounts).

Finally, this was probably in the news but I missed it because I live in a hole right now (luckily, a fact of life I’m used to), but Obama’s speechwriter committed a Facebook drunkfail that made it farther than Facebook. Here’s one woman’s take on it—one that I happen to agree with.

(I thought about posting links to these on my Facebook page but decided that was too meta for me…)


  1. Hopefully this link will work – this is the funniest statement on fb from my perspective – when fb friends and real friends meet.


    I don’t know either, I have a similar take xJane (hence why I blog under aerin instead of my real name).

    Most of my co-workers have now joined fb, so it’s only a matter of time that I won’t say anything or post anything on my fb page or profile I wouldn’t at work. And that’s fascinating to me – as I’m not sure a person can or should be “professional” all the time.

  2. Davis

    Anonymous opinions mean nothing. Nobody ever has their “feathers ruffled” about anything meaningful by an anonymous opinion.

    If you want to make a difference in the world, you have to stand up and be recognized.

    p.s. Actually going to work for a company that you don’t agree with is not exactly a way to make any kind of difference.

  3. aerin, I agree. I don’t think anyone can act the way they act at work all the time (except in certain industries). I wonder when that fact will be accepted by bosses and corporations to the point that drunken profile pics and ill-conceived status updates no longer offend. That said, honesty is a good thing, and if someone takes time off work for family reasons and then is discovered to have been partying, Facebook or no, there are (and should be consequences).

    Actually, Davis, anonymous opinions can mean something, see the group “Anonymous”, or, you know, voting. All I want to accomplish by working for a company or boss who may disagree with the opinions I express here anonymously is making money and having a career, not world change. And given some of the responses I’ve gotten to things I’ve posted as xJane or as Miko, I’d have to disagree that it’s impossible for me to ruffle anyone as those names. Finally, there’s a difference between posting as “anonymous” and have a name that is used consistently to express thoughts and opinions online. Just because xJane is not the name on my drivers’ license, that doesn’t mean I’m an anonymous name on the internet. xJane is a member of a number of communities where her voice has a familiar tone and a certain weight. Something an “anonymous” blog comment could never achiev.

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