I suspect that this balancing of roles is far too complex to be simply dismissed as duplicitous.

Hear, hear. This is one of the major reasons I’m still a screenname online. I want to keep my lives separate. There are some people who I don’t mind seeing my second life (no pun intended), but most of the time, I’ve very comfortable having them separate. If it makes readers feel better, I’m much more okay with you guys meeting the physical me than many of the physical people I know meeting the online me…